Farm Girl Fixes

  It’s a big adjustment, being the only human in the household. Not only do I have 5 four-legged kids to attend to, but everything else, too. Like repairs, when things stop working the way they should. If it’s plumbing, I call a plumber. For other repairs, I’ve...

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Things I Can’t Do Yet

No matter how brave I am, how calm I am, how resolved I am to make the best of a difficult situation, things along my widow’s journey can jump out of the woodwork and bite me, hard- -things I can’t do yet.   The day I’m writing this blog, January 17, 2019, is one...

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Tokens, Mementos and Ashes

A human life carries with it a collection of artifacts- -tokens, mementos and, when time runs out, ashes.   By token, I choose the meaning of a symbol or emblem. Early in our relationship Bruce wistfully requested a token from me. Nothing fancy, he said, maybe...

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Easing the End of Life, and After

It’s been an incredible journey, from wife to wife-caretaker to widow, all in such a short number of days. Many duties that arise at the end of life and after the death of a dearly loved one are difficult. Fire-hosed with information and responsibilities during home...

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About Bruce

For the first time since I started this blog (this is #197), I missed the weekly posting not once, but twice. You might assume that I took a break for the holidays. Not so. I took a break to take care of Bruce.   Final Illness   Bruce Matley, my husband, the...

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It’s Not All Sad

The winter holidays have begun. I can’t help but think of those who’ve lost someone dear to them during the year and are now facing the first Christmas or Hanukkah or Solstice or Kwanzaa or Saturnalia without them.  This can be a sad time, but it’s not all sad. Here’s...

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